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Polyamory advocate and radical love warrior Wendy-O Matik, author of Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships, is leading the love revolution with her book and her Radical Love & Relationship Workshops.

Wendy-O Matik is a Bay area based freelance writer, published poet, and radical love activist. She is the author of Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships (2002), a feminist critique of love and relationships outside the status quo. As an educator and spokesperson for the polyamory community, Wendy has become a revolutionary activist of the heart. Since the release of her book, she has taught over a hundred Radical Love & Relationship workshops internationally, helping to reshape the future of alternative relationship models for the 21st century. As an activist for social change, Wendy is pushing the boundaries on firmly rooted notions in mainstream society on relationships, love, gender, sexual equality, and sexual politics.

Wendy has been invited to speak frequently at universities, student groups, and progressive bookstores, including Esalen Institute, University of California, Berkeley (Female Sexuality), San Francisco State University (Human Sexuality), Evergreen State College (Olympia, WA), Mills College (Oakland, CA), and California Institute for Integral Studies (San Francisco, CA). She is available for educational and motivational discussions on the topic of alternative relationship models and responsible non-monogamy.

Wendy holds a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Political Science from the University of California, Berkeley (1988). She also hold a state-certified degree as a holistic Nutrition Consultant, specializing in diet and stress reduction, from Bauman College, Berkeley, CA (2006).


Building on her feminist critique of love and relationships, Wendy presents the major concepts and challenges that we face trying to re-invent our relationships outside the dominant social paradigm. Radical love is the freedom to love whom you want, how you want, and as many as you want, so long as personal integrity, respect, honesty, and consent are at the core of any and all relationships. Radical love primarily focuses on love and intimacy, not sex and sexual conquest. At the heart of this work are three components: feminism, social activism, and revolution. The workshop is followed by Q&A.

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